“If a man be gracious and courteous to strangers, it shows he is a citizen of the world, and that his heart is no island cut off from other lands, but a continent that joins to them.”
Sir Frances Bacon (1561-1626);
philosopher, essayist, statesman
Yes…Here am I writing about something that was already perceived as an accepted norm yet not everyone is able to practice this common courtesy. It is indeed a fundamental part in social interaction. Kids were taught to respect others especially their elders. This deep rooted attitude was reflected among adults, then we gradually understand that not everyone is worth our courteous.
You might wonder what are the benefits of social mannerism in modern society? Well, communication is what connects people and when courteous is full instilled in everyone- you can imagine a diplomatic world. Of course, courtesy refers to those small little actions, then formulate in business communication before stepping into the political crisis.
People are no longer considering how their actions may impact others, instead we are operating on the basis of what is most convenient for ourselves- being individualistic.
There are rules in society that construct the term ‘conscious’- when you did not abide the rules, you are driven by social norms and being gracious to others. People who board the train will inevitable wait for people who are in the train to step out of the train before boarding, however some people just do not have the ‘time’, ‘energy’ and the ‘mindfulness’ in treating others.
There are certain people who do not greet or even acknowledge the others, even if they knew them well (friends and relatives). They treat you as if you are transparent or does not realize your existence.
On the road, you give ways so that it is convenient for others and at the same time; you feel great. However, some just choose to ignore others and worst still, they parked or stopped in a prohibited area which creates inconvenience for others.
We see how people are enthusiastic in donation for charity organizations. Do you know why people have the vast common sense and empathy towards the victims of natural disasters yet they did not have the ‘heart’ to consider people around them? The reason is they have lost the ‘education’ of practicing being courteous.
Being polite is not ‘fake’ or just something to judge others and the most important thing is that it is not to label someone’s status or class but it is always nice to be nice to others and behave well in society.
When there is an absence of common courtesy, it will result a decrease in the consideration for others. Thus, this will affect our next generation. Just like the quote stated, “when someone is courteous to strangers, it shows he is a citizen of the world”. A civilized society basis starts from being courtesy. This virtue is not legislated, but it needs to be assimilate into our culture.